HOMILY ON THE STATE OF MATRIMONY

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<bkdv3 n="17609"><f t="rl">AN HOMILIE OF<f t="r">
<bkdv3 n="17610">the state of Matrimonie<f t="bk">
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<p>
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;1"><bkdv3 n="17611">T<f" t="bl">HE word of Almightie <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> doth te{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;2"><bkdv3 n="17612">stifie and declare, whence" the originall
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;3"><bkdv3 n="17613">beginning of Matrimony commeth, and
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;4"><bkdv3 n="17614">why it is ordained. It is instituted of
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;5"><bkdv3 n="17615"><f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, to the intent that man and wo{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;6"><bkdv3 n="17616">man should liue lawfully in a perpetuall
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;7"><bkdv3 n="17617">friendship," to bring foorth fruite, and to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;8"><bkdv3 n="17618">auoide Fornication. By which meane a
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;9"><bkdv3 n="17619">good conscience might bee preserued on
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;10"><bkdv3 n="17620">both parties, in brideling" the corrupt in{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;11"><bkdv3 n="17621">clinations of" the flesh, within the limites
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;12"><bkdv3 n="17622">of honestie. For <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> hath straitly for{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;13"><bkdv3 n="17623">bidden all whoredome and vncleannesse,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;14"><bkdv3 n="17624">and hath from" time to time taken grieuous punishment of this inordi{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;15"><bkdv3 n="17625">nate lust, as all stories and ages haue declared. Furthermore it is also
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;16"><bkdv3 n="17626">ordained," that the Church of <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> and his kingdome might by this
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;17"><bkdv3 n="17627">kinde of life be conserued and enlarged, not onely in" that <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> giueth
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;18"><bkdv3 n="17628">children by his blessing, but also in |&|that:" they be brought vp by the Parents
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;19"><bkdv3 n="17629">godly, in" the knowledge of <f t="bll">GODS<f t="bl"> word, that thus the <app>knowlede <rdg resp="IL">knowledge</rdg></app> of
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;20"><bkdv3 n="17630"><f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> and true Religion might bee deliuered by succession from one to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;21"><bkdv3 n="17631">another" that finally many might enioy that euerlasting immortalitie.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;22"><bkdv3 n="17632">Wherefore, forasmuch as Matrimonie serueth vs as well" to auoide sinne
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;23"><bkdv3 n="17633">and offence, as" to encrease the kingdome of <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">: you, as all other
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;24"><bkdv3 n="17634">which enter" the state, must acknowledge this benefit of <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, with pure
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;25"><bkdv3 n="17635">and" thankefull minds, for that he hath so ruled your hearts, that yee fol{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;26"><bkdv3 n="17636">low not" the example of the wicked world, who set their delight in filthi{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;27"><bkdv3 n="17637">nesse of sinne, but both of you stand in" the feare of <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, and abhorre
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;28"><bkdv3 n="17638">all filthinesse. For" that is surely the singular gift of <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, where the
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;29"><bkdv3 n="17639">common example of" the world declareth how the diuell hath their
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;30"><bkdv3 n="17640">hearts bound and entangled in diuers snares, so" that they in their
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;31"><bkdv3 n="17641">wiuelesse state runne into open abominations, without any grudge of
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;32"><bkdv3 n="17642">their conscience. Which sort of men" that liue so desperately, and filthy,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;33"><bkdv3 n="17643">what damnation" tarieth for them, Saint <f t="r"><name t="ps">Paul</name><f t="bl"> describeth it to them, say{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;34"><bkdv3 n="17644">ing: Neither whoremonger, neither adulterers, shall inherite" the king{\-}

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<bkdv3 n="17645"><cit work="NT. 1 Corinthians 6.9"><f t="r">1.Cor.5.<f t="bl"></cit>
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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;35"><bkdv3 n="17646">dome of <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">. This horrible iudgement of <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> yee bee escaped

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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;36"><bkdv3 n="17649">through his mercie, if so bee" that yee liue inseparately, according to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;37"><bkdv3 n="17650"><f" t="bll">GODS<f t="bl"> ordinance. But yet I would not haue you carelesse without
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;38"><bkdv3 n="17651">watching. For" the deuill will assay to attempt all things to interrupt
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;39"><bkdv3 n="17652">and hinder your hearts and godly purpose, if ye will giue him any entry.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;40"><bkdv3 n="17653">For hee will either labour" to breake this godly knot once begun betwixt
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;41"><bkdv3 n="17654">you, or else at" the least hee will labour to encumber it with diuers griefes
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;42"><bkdv3 n="17655">and displeasures.
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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;43"><bkdv3 n="17656">And" this is the principall craft, to worke dissension of hearts of the one
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;44"><bkdv3 n="17657">from" the other: That whereas now there is pleasant and sweet loue be{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;45"><bkdv3 n="17658">twixt you, he will in" the stead thereof, bring in most bitter |&| vnpleasant
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;46"><bkdv3 n="17659">discord, And surely" that same aduersarie of ours, doeth, as it were from
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;47"><bkdv3 n="17660">aboue, assault mans nature and condition. For" this folly is euer from
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;48"><bkdv3 n="17661">our" tender age growne vp with vs, to haue a desire to rule, to thinke
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;49"><bkdv3 n="17662">highly of our selfe, so" that none thinketh it meet to giue place to another.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;50"><bkdv3 n="17663">That wicked vice of stubborne will and selfe loue, is more meet" to breake
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;51"><bkdv3 n="17664">and" to disseuer the loue of heart, then to preserue concord. Wherefore
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;52"><bkdv3 n="17665">married persons must apply" their minds in most earnest wise to concorde,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;53"><bkdv3 n="17666">and must craue continually of <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> the helpe of his holy Spirit, so to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;54"><bkdv3 n="17667">rule" their hearts, and to knit their minds together, that they be not disse{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;55"><bkdv3 n="17668">uered by any diuision of discord. This necessitie of prayer, must be oft in
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;56"><bkdv3 n="17669">the practise and vsing of married persons," that oft times the one should
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;57"><bkdv3 n="17670">pray for" the other, lest hate and debate doe arise betwixt them. And be{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;58"><bkdv3 n="17671">cause few doe consider" this thing, but more few doe performe it (I say to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;59"><bkdv3 n="17672">pray diligently) we see how wonderfull" the diuell deludeth and scorneth
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;60"><bkdv3 n="17673">this state, how few Matrimonies" there be without chidings, braw{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;61"><bkdv3 n="17674">lings," tauntings, repentings, bitter cursings, and fightings. Which
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;62"><bkdv3 n="17675">things whosoeuer doth commit," they doe not consider that it is the insti{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;63"><bkdv3 n="17676">gation of" the ghostly enemie, who taketh great delight therein: For else
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;64"><bkdv3 n="17677">they would with all earnest endeauour, striue against" these mischiefes,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;65"><bkdv3 n="17678">not onely with prayer, but also with all possible diligence. Yea" they
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;66"><bkdv3 n="17679">would not giue place" to the prouocation of wrath, which stirreth them
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;67"><bkdv3 n="17680">either" to such rough and sharpe words, or stripes, which is surely compas{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;68"><bkdv3 n="17681">sed by" the diuell, whose temptation, if it be followed, must needs beginne
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;69"><bkdv3 n="17682">and weaue" the web of all miseries, and sorrowes. For this is most cer{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;70"><bkdv3 n="17683">tainely" true, that of such beginnings must needs ensue the breach of true
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;71"><bkdv3 n="17684">concord in heart, whereby all loue must needes shortly be banished. Then
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;72"><bkdv3 n="17685">can it not be but a miserable" thing to behold, that yet they are of necessity
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;73"><bkdv3 n="17686">compelled" to liue together, which yet can not bee in quiet together.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;74"><bkdv3 n="17687">And" this is most customably euery where to bee seene. But what is
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;75"><bkdv3 n="17688">the cause" thereof? Forsooth because they will not consider the craftie
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;76"><bkdv3 n="17689">traines of" the diuell, and therefore giue not themselues to pray to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;77"><bkdv3 n="17690"><f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, that hee would vouchsafe to represse his power. Moreo{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;78"><bkdv3 n="17691">uer," they doe not consider how they promote the purpose of the diuell, in
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;79"><bkdv3 n="17692">that" they follow the wrath of their hearts, while they threat one another,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;80"><bkdv3 n="17693">while" they in their folly turne all vpside downe, while they will neuer
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;81"><bkdv3 n="17694">giue ouer" their right as they esteeme it, yea, while many times they will
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;82"><bkdv3 n="17695">not giue ouer" the wrong part in deed. Learne thou therefore, if thou de{\-}

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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;83"><bkdv3 n="17698">sirest" to be void of all these miseries, if thou desirest to liue peaceably and
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;84"><bkdv3 n="17699">comfortably in wedlocke, how" to make thy earnest prayer to <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, that
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;85"><bkdv3 n="17700">he would gouerne both your heartes by" the holy Spirit, to restraine
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;86"><bkdv3 n="17701">the Diuels power, whereby your concorde may remaine perpetu{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;87"><bkdv3 n="17702">ally. But" to this prayer must bee ioyned a singular diligence, whereof

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<bkdv3 n="17703"><cit work="NT. 1 Peter 3.7"><f t="r">1.Pet.3.<f t="bl"></cit>
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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;88"><bkdv3 n="17704">Saint <f" t="r"><name t="ps">Peter</name><f t="bl"> giueth this precept, saying, You husbands, deale with your
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;89"><bkdv3 n="17705">weaker vessell, and as vnto" them that are heires also of the grace of life,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;90"><bkdv3 n="17706">that your prayers bee not hindered. This precept doth particularly per{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;91"><bkdv3 n="17707">taine" to the husband: for hee ought to be the leader and authour of loue,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;92"><bkdv3 n="17708">in cherishing and increasing concord, which" then shall take place, if hee
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;93"><bkdv3 n="17709">will vse moderation and not" tyranny, and if he yeelde some thing to the
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;94"><bkdv3 n="17710">woman. For" the woman is a weake creature, not indued with like
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;95"><bkdv3 n="17711">strength and constancie of minde," therefore they be the sooner disquieted,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;96"><bkdv3 n="17712">and" they be the more prone to all weake affections |&| dispositions of mind,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;97"><bkdv3 n="17713">more" then men bee, |&| lighter they bee, and more vaine in their fantasies |&|
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;98"><bkdv3 n="17714">opinions. These" things must bee considered of the man, that hee be not
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;99"><bkdv3 n="17715">too stiffe, so" that he ought to winke at some thinges, and must gently ex{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;100"><bkdv3 n="17716">pounde all" things, and to forbeare. Howbeit the common sort of men
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;101"><bkdv3 n="17717">doeth iudge," that such moderation should not become a man: For they
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;102"><bkdv3 n="17718">say" that it is a token of womanish cowardnesse, and therefore they thinke
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;103"><bkdv3 n="17719">that it is a mans part" to fume in anger, to fight with fiste and staffe.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;104"><bkdv3 n="17720">Howbeit, howsoeuer" they imagine, vndoubtedly Saint <f t="r"><name t="ps">Peter</name><f t="bl"> doth bet{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;105"><bkdv3 n="17721">ter iudge what should be seeming" to a man, and what he should most rea{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;106"><bkdv3 n="17722">sonably performe. For he saith, reasoning should be vsed, and not figh{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;107"><bkdv3 n="17723">ting. Yea hee saith more," that the woman ought to haue a certaine
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;108"><bkdv3 n="17724">honour attributed" to her, that is to say, shee must bee spared and borne
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;109"><bkdv3 n="17725">with," the rather for that she is the weaker vessell, of a fraile heart, incon{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;110"><bkdv3 n="17726">stant, and with a word soone stirred" to wrath. And therefore considering
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;111"><bkdv3 n="17727">these her frailties, shee is" to be the rather spared. By this meanes, thou
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;112"><bkdv3 n="17728">shalt not onely nourish concord: but shalt haue her heart in" thy power and
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;113"><bkdv3 n="17729">will. For honest natures will sooner bee reteined" to doe their dueties, ra{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;114"><bkdv3 n="17730">ther by gentle words," then by stripes. But hee which will doe all things
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;115"><bkdv3 n="17731">with extremitie and seueritie, and doeth vse alwayes rigor in words and
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;116"><bkdv3 n="17732">stripes, what will" that auaile in the conclusion? Verely nothing, but
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;117"><bkdv3 n="17733">that hee" thereby setteth forward the diuels worke, hee banisheth away
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;118"><bkdv3 n="17734">concord, charitie, and sweete amity, and bringeth in dissension, hatred,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;119"><bkdv3 n="17735">|&| yrkesomnesse," the greatest griefes that can be in the mutuall loue and fe{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;120"><bkdv3 n="17736">lowship of mans life. Beyond all" this, it bringeth another euill there{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;121"><bkdv3 n="17737">with, for it is" the destruction and interruption of prayer: For in the time
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;122"><bkdv3 n="17738">that" the minde is occupied with dissention and discord, there can bee no
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;123"><bkdv3 n="17739">true prayer vsed. For" the Lords prayer hath not onely a respect to particu{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;124"><bkdv3 n="17740">lar persons, but" to the whole vniuersall, in the which wee openly pro{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;125"><bkdv3 n="17741">nounce," that we will forgiue them which haue offended against vs, euen
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;126"><bkdv3 n="17742">as we aske forgiuenesse of our sinnes of <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, Which thing how canne
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;127"><bkdv3 n="17743">it be done rightly, when" their hearts be at dissension? How can they pray
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;128"><bkdv3 n="17744">each for other, when" they bee at hate betwixt themselues? Now, if the

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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;129"><bkdv3 n="17747">ayde of prayer bee" taken away, by what meanes can they sustaine them{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;130"><bkdv3 n="17748">selues in any comfort? For" they cannot otherwise either resist the deuill,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;131"><bkdv3 n="17749">or yet haue" their heartes staide in stable comfort in all perills and necessi{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;132"><bkdv3 n="17750">ties, but by prayer. Thus all discommodities, as well worldly as ghostly,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;133"><bkdv3 n="17751">follow" this froward testines, and cumbrous fiercenesse, in maners, which
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;134"><bkdv3 n="17752">bee more meete for bruite beastes," then for reasonable creatures. Saint
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;135"><bkdv3 n="17753"><f" t="r"><name t="ps">Peter</name><f t="bl"> doeth not allow these things, but the diuell desireth them gladly.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;136"><bkdv3 n="17754">Wherefore" take the more heede. And yet a man may be a man, although
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;137"><bkdv3 n="17755">hee doeth not vse such extremitie, yea although hee should dissemble some
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;138"><bkdv3 n="17756">things in his wiues manners. And" this is the part of a Christian man,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;139"><bkdv3 n="17757">which both pleaseth <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, and serueth also in good vse to the comfort
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;140"><bkdv3 n="17758">of" their mariage state. Now as concerning the wiues duety. What shall
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;141"><bkdv3 n="17759">become her? shall she abuse" the gentlenesse and humanity of her husband
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;142"><bkdv3 n="17760">and, at her pleasure," turne all things vpside downe? No surely. For that

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<bkdv3 n="17761"><cit work="NT. 1 Peter 3.1"><f t="r">1.Pet.2.<f t="bl"></cit>
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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;143"><bkdv3 n="17762">is far repugnant against <f" t="bll">GODS<f t="bl"> commandement, For thus doeth Saint
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;144"><bkdv3 n="17763"><f" t="r"><name t="ps">Peter</name><f t="bl"> preach to them, Yee wiues, be ye in subiection to obey your owne
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;145"><bkdv3 n="17764">husbands. To obey, is another" thing then to controle or command,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;146"><bkdv3 n="17765">which yet" they may doe, to their children, and to their family: But as for
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;147"><bkdv3 n="17766">their husbands," them must they obey, and cease from commanding, and
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;148"><bkdv3 n="17767">performe subiection. For" this surely doth nourish concord very much,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;149"><bkdv3 n="17768">when" the wife is ready at hand at her husbands commandement, when
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;150"><bkdv3 n="17769">she will apply her selfe" to his will, when shee endeuoureth her selfe to seeke
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;151"><bkdv3 n="17770">his contentation, and" to doe him pleasure, when shee will eschewe
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;152"><bkdv3 n="17771">all" things that might offend him: For thus will most truely bee verified
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;153"><bkdv3 n="17772">the saying of" the Poet, A good wife by obeying her husband, shall beare
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;154"><bkdv3 n="17773">the rule, so" that he shall haue a delight and a gladnesse, the sooner at all
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;155"><bkdv3 n="17774">times" to returne home to her. But on the contrary part, when the wiues
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;156"><bkdv3 n="17775">bee stubborne, froward, and malipert," their husbands are compelled
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;157"><bkdv3 n="17776">therby" to abhorre and flee from their owne houses, euen as they should
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;158"><bkdv3 n="17777">haue battaile with" their enemies. Howbeit, it can skantly be, but that
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;159"><bkdv3 n="17778">some offences shall sometime chance betwixt" them: For no man doth liue
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;160"><bkdv3 n="17779">without fault, specially for" that the woman is the more fraile partie.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;161"><bkdv3 n="17780">Therefore let" them beware that they stand not in their faultes and wil{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;162"><bkdv3 n="17781">fullnesse: but rather let" them acknowledge their follies, and say, My hus{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;163"><bkdv3 n="17782">band, so it is," that by my anger I was compelled to doe this or that for{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;164"><bkdv3 n="17783">giue it me, and hereafter I will" take better heede. Thus ought the wo{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;165"><bkdv3 n="17784">man more readily" to doe, the more they be ready to offend. And they shall
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;166"><bkdv3 n="17785">not doe" this onely to auoyd strife and debate: but rather in the respect of
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;167"><bkdv3 n="17786">the commandement of <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, as Saint <f t="r"><name t="ps">Paul</name><f t="bl"> expresseth it in this forme

<note place="lmargin">
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</note>

<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;168"><bkdv3 n="17788">of words, Let women bee subiect" to their husbands as to the Lorde:
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;169"><bkdv3 n="17789">for" the husband is the head of the woman, as <name t="ps">Christ</name> is the head of
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;170"><bkdv3 n="17790">the Church. Here you vnderstand," that <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> hath commanded that
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;171"><bkdv3 n="17791">ye should acknowledge" the authoritie of the husband, and referre to him
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;172"><bkdv3 n="17792">the honour of obedience. And Saint <f" t="r"><name t="ps">Peter</name><f t="bl"> saith in that place before re{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;173"><bkdv3 n="17793">hearsed," that holy matrons did in former time decke themselues, not
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;174"><bkdv3 n="17794">with gold and siluer, but in putting" their whole hope in <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, and in
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;175"><bkdv3 n="17795">obeying" their husbands, as <f t="r"><name t="ps">Sara</name><f t="bl"> obeyed <f t="r"><name t="ps">Abraham</name><f t="bl">, calling him lord, whose

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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;176"><bkdv3 n="17798">daughters ye bee (saith he) if yee follow her example. This sentence is
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;177"><bkdv3 n="17799">very meete for women" to print in their remembrance. Trueth it is, that
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;178"><bkdv3 n="17800">they must specially feele" the griefe and paines of their Matrimonie, in
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;179"><bkdv3 n="17801">that" they relinquish the liberty of their owne rule, in the paine of their
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;180"><bkdv3 n="17802">trauailing, in" the bringing vp of their children. In which offices they be
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;181"><bkdv3 n="17803">in great perils, and be grieued with great afflictions, which" they might
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;182"><bkdv3 n="17804">bee without if" they liued out of Matrimonie. But S. <f t="r"><name t="ps">Peter</name><f t="bl"> sayth, that
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;183"><bkdv3 n="17805">this is" the chiefe ornament of holy matrons, in that they set their hope
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;184"><bkdv3 n="17806">and" trust in <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, that is to say, in that they refused not from mariage
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;185"><bkdv3 n="17807">for" the businesse thereof, for the giftes and perils thereof: but committed
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;186"><bkdv3 n="17808">all such aduentures" to <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, in most sure trust of helpe, after that they
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;187"><bkdv3 n="17809">haue called vpon his ayde. O woman, doe" thou the like, and so shalt thou
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;188"><bkdv3 n="17810">be most excellently beautified before <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> and all his Angels |&| Saints,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;189"><bkdv3 n="17811">and" thou needest not to seeke further for doing any better workes. For,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;190"><bkdv3 n="17812">obey" thy husband, take regard of his requests, and giue heede vnto him
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;191"><bkdv3 n="17813">in perceiue what he requireth of" thee, and so shalt thou honour <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> and
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;192"><bkdv3 n="17814">liue peaceably in" thy house. And beyond all this, <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> shall follow thee
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;193"><bkdv3 n="17815">with his benediction," that all things shall well prosper, both to thee and
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;194"><bkdv3 n="17816">to" thy husband, as the Psalme saith: Blessed is the man which feareth
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;195"><bkdv3 n="17817"><f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, and walketh in his wayes, thou shalt haue the fruit of thine owne
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;196"><bkdv3 n="17818">hands, happy shalt" thou be, and well it shall goe with thee. Thy wife shal
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;197"><bkdv3 n="17819">be as a vine, plentifully spreading about" thy house. Thy children shalbe
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;198"><bkdv3 n="17820">as" the young springs of the Oliues about thy table. Loe thus shall that
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;199"><bkdv3 n="17821">man be blessed (saith <f" t="r"><name t="ps">Dauid</name><f t="bl">) that feareth the Lord. This let the wife haue
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;200"><bkdv3 n="17822">euer in minde," the rather admonished thereto by the apparell of her head.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;201"><bkdv3 n="17823">whereby is signified," that she is vnder couert or obedience of her husband.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;202"><bkdv3 n="17824">And as" that apparell is of nature so appointed, to declare her subiection:
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;203"><bkdv3 n="17825">So biddeth Saint <name" t="ps">Paul</name> that all other of her rayment should expresse both
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;204"><bkdv3 n="17826">shamefastnesse and sobriety. For if it be not lawfull for" the woman to haue
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;205"><bkdv3 n="17827">her head bare, but" to beare thereon the signe of her power, wheresoeuer
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;206"><bkdv3 n="17828">she goeth: more is it required" that she declare the thing that is ment ther{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;207"><bkdv3 n="17829">by. And" therefore these ancient women of the old world called their
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;208"><bkdv3 n="17830">husbands lords, and shewed" them reuerence in obeying them. But perad{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;209"><bkdv3 n="17831">uenture shee will say," that those men loued their wiues indeede. I know
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;210"><bkdv3 n="17832">that well ynough, |&| beare it well in minde. But <app>whe <rdg resp="IL">when</rdg></app> I doe admonish you
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;211"><bkdv3 n="17833">of your dueties," then call not to consideration what their dueties be. For
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;212"><bkdv3 n="17834">when we our selues doe" teach our children to obey vs as their parents, or
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;213"><bkdv3 n="17835">when we reforme our seruants, and" tell them that they should obey their
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;214"><bkdv3 n="17836">masters, not only at" the eye, but as the Lord: If they should tell vs againe
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;215"><bkdv3 n="17837">our dueties, we should not" thinke it well done. For when we be admoni{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;216"><bkdv3 n="17838">shed of our dueties and faults, wee ought not" then to seeke what other
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;217"><bkdv3 n="17839">mens dueties be. For" though a man had a companion in his fault, yet
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;218"><bkdv3 n="17840">should he not" thereby be without his fault. But this must be onely looked
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;219"><bkdv3 n="17841">on, by what meanes" thou mayest make thy selfe without blame. For <name t="ps">Adam</name>
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;220"><bkdv3 n="17842">did lay" the blame vpon the woman, and she turned it vnto the serpent: but
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;221"><bkdv3 n="17843">yet neither of" th&emacron; was thus excused. And therefore bring not such excuses
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;222"><bkdv3 n="17844">to me at" this time: but apply all thy diligence to heare thine obedience to

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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;223"><bkdv3 n="17847">thine husband. For wh&emacron; I" take in hand to admonish thy husband to loue
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;224"><bkdv3 n="17848">thee, and" to cherish thee: yet will I not cease to set out the law that is ap{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;225"><bkdv3 n="17849">pointed for" the woman, aswell as I would require of the man what is
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;226"><bkdv3 n="17850">written for his law. Goe" thou therefore about such things as becommeth
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;227"><bkdv3 n="17851">thee only, |&| shew" thy selfe tractable to thy husband. Or rather if thou wilt
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;228"><bkdv3 n="17852">obey" thy husband for <f t="bll">GODS<f t="bl"> precept, then alledge such things as be in
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;229"><bkdv3 n="17853">his duty" to doe, but performe thou diligently those things which the law{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;230"><bkdv3 n="17854">maker hath charged" thee to doe: For thus is it most reasonable to obey
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;231"><bkdv3 n="17855"><f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, if thou wilt not suffer thy selfe to transgresse his law. He that lo{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;232"><bkdv3 n="17856">ueth his friend, seemeth" to doe no great thing: but he that honoureth that
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;233"><bkdv3 n="17857">is hurtfull |&| hatefull" to him, this man is worthy most commendation:
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;234"><bkdv3 n="17858">Euen so" think you, if thou canst suffer an extreme husband, thou shalt haue
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;235"><bkdv3 n="17859">a great reward" therefore: But if thou louest him only because he is gentle
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;236"><bkdv3 n="17860">|&| courteous, what reward will <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> giue thee therefore? Yet I speake
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;237"><bkdv3 n="17861">not" these things that I would wish the husbands to bee sharpe towards
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;238"><bkdv3 n="17862">their wiues: But I exhort |&|the; women" that they would patiently beare the
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;239"><bkdv3 n="17863">sharpnesse of" their husbands. For when either partes doe their best to per{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;240"><bkdv3 n="17864">forme" their duties the one to the other, then followeth thereon great pro{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;241"><bkdv3 n="17865">fite" to their neighbours for their examples sake. For when the woman is
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;242"><bkdv3 n="17866">ready" to suffer a sharpe husband, |&| the man will not extremely intreate his
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;243"><bkdv3 n="17867">stubborne |&|" troublesome wife, then be all things in quiet, as in a most sure
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;244"><bkdv3 n="17868">hauen. Euen" thus was it done in old time, that euery one did their owne
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;245"><bkdv3 n="17869">duety and office, and was not busie" to require the duetie of their neigh{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;246"><bkdv3 n="17870">bours. Consider I pray" thee that <name t="ps">Abraham</name> tooke to him his brothers
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;247"><bkdv3 n="17871">sonne, his wife did not blame him" therefore. He commanded him to goe
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;248"><bkdv3 n="17872">with him a long iourney, she did not gainesay it, but obeyed his precept.
<p>
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;249"><bkdv3 n="17873">Againe, after all" those great miseries, labours and paines of that iour{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;250"><bkdv3 n="17874">ney, when <name" t="ps">Abraham</name> was made as lord ouer all, yet did he giue place to <name t="ps">Lot</name>
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;251"><bkdv3 n="17875">of his superioritie: which matter <name" t="ps">Sara</name> tooke so little to griefe, that she
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;252"><bkdv3 n="17876">neuer once suffered her" tongue to speake such wordes as the common
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;253"><bkdv3 n="17877">manner of women is woont" to doe in these dayes, when they see their
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;254"><bkdv3 n="17878">husbands in such roomes," to bee made vnderlings, and to bee put vnder
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;255"><bkdv3 n="17879">their yongers," then they vpbrayd them with combrous talke, and call
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;256"><bkdv3 n="17880">them fooles, dastards, and cowards for so doing. But <name" t="ps">Sara</name> was so farre
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;257"><bkdv3 n="17881">from speaking any such" thing, that it came neuer into her minde and
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;258"><bkdv3 n="17882">thought so" to say, but allowed the wisedome |&| will of her husband. Yea,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;259"><bkdv3 n="17883">besides all" this, after the said <name t="ps">Lot</name> had thus his will, and left to his vncle
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;260"><bkdv3 n="17884">the lesse portion of land, hee chanced" to fall into extreme perill: Which
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;261"><bkdv3 n="17885">chance when it came" to the knowledge of this said Patriarch, he inconti{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;262"><bkdv3 n="17886">nently put all his men in harnesse, and prepared himselfe with all his fa{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;263"><bkdv3 n="17887">milie |&| friends, against" the host of the <name t="ps">Persians.</name> In which case, <name t="ps">Sara</name> did not
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;264"><bkdv3 n="17888">counsaile him" to the contrary, nor did say, as then might haue beene said:
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;265"><bkdv3 n="17889">My husband, whither goest" thou so vnaduisedly? Why runnest thou
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;266"><bkdv3 n="17890">thus on head? Why doest" thou offer thy selfe to so great perilles, and art
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;267"><bkdv3 n="17891">thus ready" to ieopard thine owne life, and to perill the liues of all thine,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;268"><bkdv3 n="17892">for such a man as hath done" thee such wrong? At the least way, if thou re{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;269"><bkdv3 n="17893">gardest not" thy selfe, yet haue compassion on me, which for thy loue haue

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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;270"><bkdv3 n="17896">forsaken my kinred |&| my countrey, and haue" the want both of my friends
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;271"><bkdv3 n="17897">and kinsesfolkes, and am" thus come into so farre countreys with thee,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;272"><bkdv3 n="17898">haue pitie on mee, and make me not here a widow," to cast mee into such
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;273"><bkdv3 n="17899">cares and" troubles. Thus might she haue said: but <name t="ps">Sara</name> neither said nor
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;274"><bkdv3 n="17900">thought such words, but she kept herselfe in silence in all" things. Further{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;275"><bkdv3 n="17901">more, all" that time when she was barren, and tooke no paines, as other
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;276"><bkdv3 n="17902">women did, by bringing foorth fruit in his house? What did he? He com{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;277"><bkdv3 n="17903">plained not" to his wife, but to Almighty <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">. And consider how either
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;278"><bkdv3 n="17904">of" them did their duties as became them: for neither did hee dispise <name t="ps">Sara,</name>
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;279"><bkdv3 n="17905">because shee was barren, nor neuer did cast it in her" teeth. Consi{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;280"><bkdv3 n="17906">der againe how <name" t="ps">Abraham</name> expelled the handmaid out of the house, when
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;281"><bkdv3 n="17907">she required it: So" that by this I may truely prooue, that the one was
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;282"><bkdv3 n="17908">pleased and contented with" the other in all things: But yet set not your
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;283"><bkdv3 n="17909">eyes onely on" this matter, but looke further what was done before this,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;284"><bkdv3 n="17910">that <name" t="ps">Agar</name> vsed her mistresse dispitefully, and that <name t="ps">Abraham</name> himselfe was
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;285"><bkdv3 n="17911">somewhat prouoked against her, which must needes bee an intolerable
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;286"><bkdv3 n="17912">matter, and a painfull," to a free hearted woman |&| a chaste. Let not there{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;287"><bkdv3 n="17913">fore" the woman be too busie to call for the duty of her husband, where shee
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;288"><bkdv3 n="17914">should be ready" to performe her owne, for that is not worthy any great
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;289"><bkdv3 n="17915">commendations. And euen so againe, let not" the man only consider what
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;290"><bkdv3 n="17916">belongeth" to the woman, and to stand too earnestly gazing thereon, for
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;291"><bkdv3 n="17917">that is not his part or duty. But as I haue said, let either party be ready
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;292"><bkdv3 n="17918">and willing" to performe that which belongeth especially to themselues.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;293"><bkdv3 n="17919">For if wee be bound" to hold out our left cheeke to strangers which will
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;294"><bkdv3 n="17920">smite vs on" the right cheeke: how much more ought wee to suffer an ex{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;295"><bkdv3 n="17921">treme and vnkind husband? But yet I meane not" that a man should beat
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;296"><bkdv3 n="17922">his wife, <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> forbid that, for that is the greatest shame that can be, not
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;297"><bkdv3 n="17923">so much" to her that is beaten, as to him that doth the deed. But if by such
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;298"><bkdv3 n="17924">fortune" thou chancest vpon such an husband, take it not too heauily, but
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;299"><bkdv3 n="17925">suppose" thou, that thereby is laid vp no small reward hereafter, |&| in this
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;300"><bkdv3 n="17926">life" time no small commendation to thee, if thou canst be quiet. But yet to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;301"><bkdv3 n="17927">you" that be men, thus I speake, Let there bee none so grieuous fault to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;302"><bkdv3 n="17928">compell you" to beat your wiues. But what say I, your wiues? no, it is
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;303"><bkdv3 n="17929">not" to be borne with, that an honest man should lay hands on his maide
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;304"><bkdv3 n="17930">seruant" to beat her. Wherefore if it be a great shame for a man to beat his
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;305"><bkdv3 n="17931">bondseruant, much more rebuke it is," to lay violent hands vpon his free{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;306"><bkdv3 n="17932">woman. And" this thing may be well vnderstood by the lawes which the
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;307"><bkdv3 n="17933">Panims haue made, which doth discharge her any longer" to dwell with
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;308"><bkdv3 n="17934">such an husband, as vnworthy" to haue any further company with her
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;309"><bkdv3 n="17935">that doeth smite her. For it is an extreme point," thus so vilely to entreat
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;310"><bkdv3 n="17936">her like a slaue," that is fellow to thee of thy life, and so ioyned vnto thee be{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;311"><bkdv3 n="17937">fore" time in the necessary matters of thy liuing. And therfore a man may
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;312"><bkdv3 n="17938">well liken such a man (if he may be called a man, rather" then a wild beast)
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;313"><bkdv3 n="17939">to a killer of his father or his mother. And whereas wee be commanded
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;314"><bkdv3 n="17940">to forsake our father and mother, for our wiues sake, and yet" thereby
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;315"><bkdv3 n="17941">doe worke" them none iniurie, but doe fulfill the Law of <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">: How
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;316"><bkdv3 n="17942">can it not appeare" then to bee a point of extreame madnesse, to en{\-}

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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;317"><bkdv3 n="17945">treate her dispitefully, for whose sake <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> hath commaunded thee
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;318"><bkdv3 n="17946">to leaue parents? Yea, who can suffer such despite? Who can worthi{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;319"><bkdv3 n="17947">ly expresse" the inconuenience that is, to see what weepings and way{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;320"><bkdv3 n="17948">lings bee made in" the open streetes, when neighbours runne together to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;321"><bkdv3 n="17949">the house of so vnruly an husband, as" to a Bedlem man, who goeth about
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;322"><bkdv3 n="17950">to ouerturne all" that hee hath at home? Who would not thinke that it
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;323"><bkdv3 n="17951">were better for such a man" to wish the ground to open, and swallow him
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;324"><bkdv3 n="17952">in," then once euer after to bee seene in the market? But peraduenture
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;325"><bkdv3 n="17953">thou wilt obiect," that the woman prouoketh thee to this point. But con{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;326"><bkdv3 n="17954">sider" thou againe that the woman is a fraile vessel, and thou art therefore
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;327"><bkdv3 n="17955">made" the ruler and head ouer her, to beare the weakenesse of her in this
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;328"><bkdv3 n="17956">her subiection. And" therefore studie thou to declare the honest commen{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;329"><bkdv3 n="17957">dation of" thine authoritie, which thou canst no way better doe, then to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;330"><bkdv3 n="17958">forbeare" to vrge her in her weakenesse and subiection. For euen as the
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;331"><bkdv3 n="17959">King appeareth so much" the more noble, the more excellent and noble hee{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;332"><bkdv3 n="17960">maketh his officers and lieuetenants, whom if hee should dishonour, and
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;333"><bkdv3 n="17961">despise" the authoritie of their dignitie, he should depriue himselfe of a great
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;334"><bkdv3 n="17962">part of his owne honour: Euen so, if" thou doest despise her that is set in
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;335"><bkdv3 n="17963">the next roome beside" thee, thou doest much derogate and decay the excel{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;336"><bkdv3 n="17964">lencie and vertue of" thine owne authoritie. Recount all these things in
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;337"><bkdv3 n="17965">thy minde, and be gentle and quiet. Vnderstand" that <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> hath giuen
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;338"><bkdv3 n="17966">thee children with her, and art made a father, and by such reason appease
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;339"><bkdv3 n="17967">thy selfe. Doest" thou not see the husbandmen what diligence they vse to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;340"><bkdv3 n="17968">till" that ground which once they haue taken to farme, though it be neuer
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;341"><bkdv3 n="17969">so full of faults? As for an example," though it be dry, though it bringeth
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;342"><bkdv3 n="17970">forth weedes," though the soyle cannot beare too much wette, yet he tilleth
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;343"><bkdv3 n="17971">it, and so winneth fruit" thereof: Euen in like manner, if thou wouldest
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;344"><bkdv3 n="17972">vse like diligence" to instruct and order the minde of thy spouse, if thou
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;345"><bkdv3 n="17973">wouldest diligently apply" thy selfe to weede out by little and little the noy{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;346"><bkdv3 n="17974">some weedes of vncomely maners out of her minde, with wholesome pre{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;347"><bkdv3 n="17975">cepts, it could not bee, but in" time thou shouldest feele the pleasant fruit
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;348"><bkdv3 n="17976">thereof" to both your comforts. Therefore that this thing chance not so,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;349"><bkdv3 n="17977">performe" this thing that I doe here counsaile thee: Whensoeuer any dis{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;350"><bkdv3 n="17978">pleasant matter riseth at home, if" thy wife hath done ought amisse, com{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;351"><bkdv3 n="17979">fort her, |&| increase not" the heauines. For though thou shouldest be grieued
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;352"><bkdv3 n="17980">with neuer so many" things, yet shalt thou finde nothing more grieuous
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;353"><bkdv3 n="17981">then" to want the beneuolence of thy wife at home<app><rdg resp="IL">.</rdg></app> What offence soeuer
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;354"><bkdv3 n="17982">thou canst name, yet shalt" thou finde none more intolerable, then to be at
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;355"><bkdv3 n="17983">debate with" thy wife. And for this cause most of all oughtest thou to haue
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;356"><bkdv3 n="17984">this loue in reuerence. And if reason moueth" thee to beare any burd&emacron; at a{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;357"><bkdv3 n="17985">ny other mens hands, much more at" thy wiues. For if she be poore, vpbraid
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;358"><bkdv3 n="17986">her not, if she be simple," taunt her not, but be the more curteous: for she is
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;359"><bkdv3 n="17987">thy body, and made one flesh with" thee. But thou peraduenture wilt say
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;360"><bkdv3 n="17988">that she is a wrathfull woman, a drunkard, and beastly, without wit and
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;361"><bkdv3 n="17989">reason. For" this cause bewayle her the more. Chafe not in anger, but
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;362"><bkdv3 n="17990">pray vnto Almighty <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">. Let her bee admonished and helped with
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;363"><bkdv3 n="17991">good counsaile, and doe" thou thy best endeuour, that she may be deliuered

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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;364"><bkdv3 n="17994">of all" these affections. But if thou shouldest beate her, thou shalt encrease
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;365"><bkdv3 n="17995">her euill affections: For frowardnesse and sharpnesse, is not amended
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;366"><bkdv3 n="17996">with frowardnesse, but with softnesse and gentlenesse. Furthermore, con{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;367"><bkdv3 n="17997">sider what reward" thou shalt haue at <f t="bll">GODS<f t="bl"> hand: For where thou
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;368"><bkdv3 n="17998">mightest beate her, and yet, for" the respect of the feare of <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, thou wilt
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;369"><bkdv3 n="17999">absteine and beare patiently her great offences," the rather in respect of
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;370"><bkdv3 n="18000">that Law which forbiddeth" that a man should cast out his wife what
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;371"><bkdv3 n="18001">fault soeuer shee bee made" the combred with, thou shalt haue a very great reward,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;372"><bkdv3 n="18002">and before" the receit of that reward, thou shalt feele many commodities.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;373"><bkdv3 n="18003">For by" this meanes she shall bee more obedient, and thou for her
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;374"><bkdv3 n="18004">sake shalt be made" the more meeke. It is written in a storie of a certaine
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;375"><bkdv3 n="18005">strange Philosopher, which had a cursed wife, a froward and a drunkard.
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;376"><bkdv3 n="18006">When he was asked for what consideration hee did so beare her euill man{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;377"><bkdv3 n="18007">ners? He made answere, By" this meanes (sayd hee) I haue at home
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;378"><bkdv3 n="18008">a Schoolemaster, and an example how I should behaue my selfe abroad:
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;379"><bkdv3 n="18009">For I shall (saith hee) bee" the more quiet with others, being thus dayly
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;380"><bkdv3 n="18010">exercised and" taught in the forbearing of her. Surely it is a shame that
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;381"><bkdv3 n="18011">Panims should be wiser" then we, we I say, that be commanded to resem{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;382"><bkdv3 n="18012">ble angels, or rather <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> himselfe through meekenesse. And for the
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;383"><bkdv3 n="18013">loue of vertue," this sayd Philosopher <name t="ps">Socrates</name> would not expell his wife
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;384"><bkdv3 n="18014">out of his house. Yea, some say" that hee did therefore mary his wife, to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;385"><bkdv3 n="18015">learne" this vertue by that occasion. Wherefore, seeing many men bee
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;386"><bkdv3 n="18016">farre behinde" the wisedome of this man, my counsell is, that first and be{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;387"><bkdv3 n="18017">fore all" things, a man doe his best endeuour to get him a good wife, en{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;388"><bkdv3 n="18018">dued with all honestie and vertue: But if it so chaunce" that he is decei{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;389"><bkdv3 n="18019">ued," that hee hath chosen such a wife as is neither good nor tolerable,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;390"><bkdv3 n="18020">then let" the husband follow this Philosopher, and let him instruct his
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;391"><bkdv3 n="18021">wife in euery condition, and neuer lay" these matters to sight. For
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;392"><bkdv3 n="18022">the Marchant man, except hee first bee at composition with his fac{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;393"><bkdv3 n="18023">tour" to vse his interfayres quietly, hee will neither stirre his shippe
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;394"><bkdv3 n="18024">to sayle, nor yet will lay handes vpon his marchandize: Euen so, let
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;395"><bkdv3 n="18025">vs doe all" things, that we may haue the fellowship of our wiues, which
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;396"><bkdv3 n="18026">is" the factour of all our doings at home, in great quiet and rest. And by
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;397"><bkdv3 n="18027">these meanes all" things shall prosper quietly, and so shall we passe through
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;398"><bkdv3 n="18028">the dangers of" the troublous sea of this world. For this state of life will
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;399"><bkdv3 n="18029">bee more honourable and comfortable" then our houses, then seruants,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;400"><bkdv3 n="18030">then money," then landes and possessions, then all things that can bee
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;401"><bkdv3 n="18031">told. As all" these with sedition and discord, can neuer worke vs any com{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;402"><bkdv3 n="18032">fort: So shall all" things turne to our commoditie and pleasure, if wee
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;403"><bkdv3 n="18033">draw" this yoke in one concord of heart and minde. Whereupon doe your
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;404"><bkdv3 n="18034">best endeuour," that after this sort ye vse your Matrimony, and so shall yee
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;405"><bkdv3 n="18035">be armed on euery side. Yee haue escaped" the snares of the deuill, and the
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;406"><bkdv3 n="18036">vnlawfull lustes of" the flesh, yee haue the quietnesse of conscience by this
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;407"><bkdv3 n="18037">institution of Matrimony ordeined by <f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">: therefore vse oft prayer to
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;408"><bkdv3 n="18038">him," that hee would bee present by you, that hee would continue concord
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;409"><bkdv3 n="18039">and charitie betwixt you. Doe" the best yee can of your partes, to cu{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;410"><bkdv3 n="18040">stome your selues" to softnesse and meekenesse, and beare well in worth

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<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;411"><bkdv3 n="18043">such ouersights as chaunce: and" thus shall your conuersation bee most
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;412"><bkdv3 n="18044">pleasant and comfortable. And although (which can no otherwise bee)
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;413"><bkdv3 n="18045">some aduersities shall follow, and otherwhiles now one discommodity,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;414"><bkdv3 n="18046">now another shall appeare: yet in" this common trouble and aduersity, lift
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;415"><bkdv3 n="18047">vp both your hands vnto heauen, call vpon" the helpe and assistance of
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;416"><bkdv3 n="18048"><f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">, the authour of your mariage, and surely the promise of releefe is
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;417"><bkdv3 n="18049">at hand. For <name" t="ps">Christ</name> affirmeth in his Gospel, Where two or three be gathe{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;418"><bkdv3 n="18050">red" together in my name, and bee agreed, what matter soeuer they pray
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;419"><bkdv3 n="18051">for, it shalbe granted" them of my heauenly father. Why therefore shouldest
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;420"><bkdv3 n="18052">thou be afrayd of" the danger, where thou hast so ready a promise, and so
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;421"><bkdv3 n="18053">nigh an helpe? Furthermore, you must vnderstand how necessary it is
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;422"><bkdv3 n="18054">for Christian folke" to beare <name t="ps">Christs</name> crosse: for else we shall neuer feele how
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;423"><bkdv3 n="18055">comfortable <f" t="bll">GODS<f t="bl"> helpe is vnto vs. Therefore giue thanks to <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl">
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;424"><bkdv3 n="18056">for his great benefit, in" that yee haue taken vpon you this state of wed{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;425"><bkdv3 n="18057">locke, and pray you instantly," that Almighty <f t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> may luckily defend
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;426"><bkdv3 n="18058">and maintaine you" therein, that neither yee bee ouercome with any temp{\-}
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;427"><bkdv3 n="18059">tations, nor with any aduersity. But before all" things, take good heede
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;428"><bkdv3 n="18060">that yee giue no occasion" to the diuell to let and hinder your prayers by
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;429"><bkdv3 n="18061">discord and dissension : for" there is no stronger defence and stay in all
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;430"><bkdv3 n="18062">our life," then is prayer, in the which wee may call for the helpe of
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;431"><bkdv3 n="18063"><f" t="bll">GOD<f t="bl"> and obtayne it, whereby we may win his blessing,
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;432"><bkdv3 n="18064">his grace, his defence, and protection, so" to continue
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;433"><bkdv3 n="18065">therein" to a better life to come: Which grant
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;434"><bkdv3 n="18066">vs he" that died for vs all, to whom bee
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;435"><bkdv3 n="18067">all honour and prayse, for euer
<ttdv3 n="II:18:1;436"><bkdv3 n="18068">and euer,<f" t="r"> Amen.

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